For those of you who don’t know: I’m adopted, and have known as much since I can remember.
I think I found my mom. I don’t know why I didn’t think of this before. I knew enough information to run the appropriate searches, I just never put two and two together.
I know her name. I know she lived in Orange when I was born. I know she was around 15-16 when she had me. I know she was in the area in 1975 for the paternity case brought by my birth father. I even have the records from that case.
So I extrapolated some information and did a few searches. It is possible she had married since 1975, so I knew searching on her maiden name (the only name I have to go by) would result in a few misses and only luke warm leads, since a Google search will bring back anyone with the name regardless of if it is a married or maiden name.
That is, until I realized that there ARE sites out there which would discern between married and maiden names. Especially if I have a rough range of dates for when she was in school. Which I do. So I logged on to www.classmates.com to begin my search.
I figured she would probably have been attending Orange High School somewhere between 1973 and 1975. So I surfed through the list, and what do you know, there she was… (You need a classmates profile to see this link, sorry.)
So what do I do now… I search Google for any listing of her name in the Colorado area. Nothing. I try a different search, and I get two hits. But this still isn’t anything more than warm since there are a number of people with her name (name removed for privacy) in Colorado due to marriage. Another Alumni site showed me that.
So now I get to decide if it is worth $15 to me to try and follow this lead and see if it pans out through Classmates.com.
I am unsure on a number of fronts, though. The largest being that I am simply unsure if I even REALLY want to contact her, or if I should just leave well enough alone. I’d hate to cause any pain on either of our parts.
I know my birth father and his side of the family are keen to be in contact with me. But I am entirely in the dark about my birth mother.
There is a much larger story here, that one day will be down in print. Suffice to say for now, it is an odd, odd feeling knowing that I actually COULD be close to contacting my birth mom if I was so inclined. Of course the possibility still looms that my research has only provided me with a happy coincidence.